It’s kind of interesting the way we perceive our animals, especially pets, these days.
I am not making fun of anyone – My Beloved and I absolutely spoil our dogs shamelessly. But this is a little odd, because I don’t think either of us was raised that way.
I do not want to create a voice for Cokie. She had her own. My mom’s Bichon Frise passed away in September, and I do not want to be cute or clever at the expense of my mother’s emotions, or the memory of our dear pet and friend. The idea for this essay came from a CD about memoir written and narrated by Natalie Goldberg. On a ride back to Beaufort from Jacksonville, FL, Ms. Goldberg asked me what it is to “have an old friend from faraway.”
It’s about 8:20 on a Tuesday morning as I inch my car forward in the drop-off line at my daughter’s school. It’s a long line this morning, and I watch the children emerge from the cars, one by one, with a growing sense of dread. They look like typical fifth graders – fresh faces, tidy school uniforms, clean and scrubbed, hair neatly combed.
So, last week I’m on my back deck, beating a rug into submission with a broom. It’s another splendid fall afternoon, but I hardly notice. I’m too busy thinking of all the articles I have to edit and all the bills in the mail pile and all the homework Amelia will soon be dragging through the door – and her big science project that’s due next week, and the dance shoes she needs, and when’s her next play practice, again? – and I’m wondering if I remembered to sign that paperwork and return those emails, and I’m beating that dusty rug to a pristine pulp… when all of a sudden, a magnificent orange butterfly comes gliding my way.
Fall came early this year. By the time you read this, it may have retreated again – who knows around here? – but the fact remains that we enjoyed a cool, autumnal blast the weekend of September 16th, and I, for one, was caught completely off guard.
The last couple of weeks have been rough. Intensely emotional. A handful of unexpected deaths shocked our community, bringing us together in grief and mourning. Some of us have friends – or friends of friends – in Texas who lost their homes to fire. The nation issued a collective groan at the latest jobs report, then turned our hearts and minds to the devastating events of 9/11.