I am writing to you from a Howard Johnson's in Greensboro, NC. We're here for another dance convention – our daughter's obsession, remember? – after spending hours yesterday hoofing around downtown Greenville, SC, shooting video for an architecture documentary my husband's making.
There is no use abstaining from food if you do not abstain from selfishness. - Fr. Garrett, "Tour Guide," Mepkin Abbey
On the first Sunday in March, I went on a mini-pilgrimage with my mother and two dogs to Mepkin Abbey in Moncks Corner, South Carolina. It was sunny and crisp, lodged between days of insistent Lowcountry rain.
A couple of Fridays ago, I was sitting in my car outside Studio B on Greene Street, waiting for my daughter to emerge from dance class. It was sixish and dusky, and I was reading on my phone, when a moving shadow caught the corner of my eye. I looked up to see a man with a neat beard and a nice smile; he waved and signaled me to roll down the window.
My daughter has reached that delightful age when American girls begin to obsess – and obsess and obsess and obsess – over clothes, shoes, makeup, hair, accessories, home décor… the whole girly shebang. For many girls, it’s the beginning of a journey that never ends. (Perhaps “journey” is too dignified a term; “trivial pursuit,” maybe?)
February is generally a throwaway month. The happy holidays are long gone – but not your holiday weight – and flirtatious spring refuses to commit (thank God, since you still need to lose that holiday weight). If you're black, you can celebrate your history; if you're newly enamored, you can rock Valentine's Day. For the rest of us, there's little to mitigate the midwinter blahs.